Self-abandonment is the repeated, often unconscious act of disconnecting from your own inner experience - your needs, emotions, limits, instincts - in order to maintain sense of safety, connection or validation from the outside world. Recognising self-abandonment isn’t about catching yourself doing something wrong. It’s about gently noticing moments where you disconnect from yourself. This is the beginning of a different relationship with yourself.

One of the participants in my recent self-awareness workshop posed a question that cut straight to the heart of our collective human...

In October 2018, just a few days before my birthday, I was diagnosed with lupus. Lupus is a chronic illness, autoimmune. My body is...